How to become more confident

Having self-confidence is essential in all areas in which we move. And so it is for those who decide to enter the world of crossdressing. That's why in this post you will learn how to become more confident.

 

What it takes to learn to be more confident as a crossdresser is no different than what it takes to be more confident in any other activity of your life.

 

Being confident is not something you are born with but rather a feeling you develop that allows you to have the conviction that you can succeed at whatever you want.

 

Being a crossdresser can be very stressful if you don't have the confidence to deal with it, whether it's the simple fact of wanting to buy a nice dress in a store or going out to crossdress in public for the first time.

 

It would be an exaggeration to assume that just learning how to build confidence is enough to make all your problems go away, but it will help you to have the right attitude to face them.

5 tips for building confidence as a crossdresser

Here are 5 tips that will show you the path you need to take to develop self-confidence as a crossdresser.

Be comfortable with yourself

Accepting yourself as you are is perhaps the first step in building self-confidence.

 

To accept yourself you must first know yourself, know who you are now and who you want to become, be aware of your flaws and appreciate your strengths.

In this way you will be able to value yourself, achieve emotional well-being and, ultimately, love yourself.

Stop being so hard on yourself

One of the things that every crossdresser has to deal with is the feeling of guilt.

 

Many crossdressers, if not all of us, have gone through this stage of guilt. It's when we throw away all our pretty girly clothes that we worked so hard to buy, or we delete all our photos or videos, or we leave crossdressing forums or groups, only to start all over again soon after.

 

I'm sure you all know that feeling very well. We create a vicious circle that destroys our confidence.

If actually being a crossdresser is what you want then you should stop criticizing yourself and feeling guilty about it.

Your feminine side is part of you and being able to enjoy it by wearing girly clothes should be a matter of course.

 

There are several ways to improve our treatment of ourselves. One of them is to talk to ourselves in a positive way.

What we say to ourselves as well as the words we use are important because it is the way we create our view of the world.

This is why it is important that we have a healthy and empowering conversation with ourselves.
 

Another way to show appreciation for yourself is to recognize your accomplishments and achievements, big or small.

 

If you've managed to improve your skills in makeup or walking in high heels, don't let it go unnoticed and celebrate your success. 

Overcome your limiting beliefs

Feeling doubt or anxiety about what we think of ourselves as crossdressers at the prospect of looking and feeling as feminine as a woman is a sure sign that our beliefs are limiting us from wanting to make our desires and fantasies come true.

 

We all have beliefs that represent something like absolute truth about ourselves and our world. They are very useful when they help us achieve our goals. But when these "truths" begin to prevent us from doing certain things or negatively affect our efforts and relationships, they become limiting beliefs.

 

If that's the case, it's time to ask yourself which of your beliefs are preventing you from achieving your goals. Examine those beliefs from the perspective of the new reality you want to create and replace them with new beliefs that will empower you and help you achieve what you long for.

At some point you must have said to yourself things like "I can't" or "I'm too shy". Or surely when you fantasize about walking around a mall dressed very sexy you tell yourself that "I would never dare to go out in public dressed as a lady".

If you keep telling yourself the same thing constantly, it will become for you an absolute truth. But when you change your speech, you give yourself the opportunity to change the ending of your story.

Surround yourself with good people

Try as much as possible to foster personal relationships with those who accept you as you are, support you and encourage you to be yourself, and spend less time with those negative people who don't understand or accept sexual diversity.

 

Always seek out people who will help you improve and avoid those who diminish you emotionally or physically.

Rest assured that negative and toxic people are in the minority. There will always be many more people than you think who will love and support you, and many more who simply don't care that you are a crossdresser.

 

These positive people will not necessarily be part of your family group or your close group of friends. You can also find them in advisory groups or even people you admire, mentors or life coaches.

Realize you are not alone

As obvious as it sounds, I think it is important and necessary to repeat it as many times as necessary: you're not alone.

You are not the only person who likes crossdressing and who has gone through times when you felt you didn't have what it takes to move forward.

 

Every crossdresser, no matter how self-confident she may seem now, has had her dark times at the beginning of her journey.

 

I assure you that there are many more crossdressers out there than you think and many of them are willing to help you find your way.

 

So don't suffer and be happy, enjoying crossdressing the way you decide.