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How to become more confident

How to become more confident

Having self-confidence is essential in all areas in which we move. And so it is for those who decide to enter the world of crossdressing. That's why in this post you will learn how to become more confident.
 
A beautiful crossdresser strolling through a museum in mini dress, tan pantyhose and black heels very confident

What it takes to learn to be more confident as a crossdresser is no different than what it takes to be more confident in any other activity of your life.
 
Being confident is not something you are born with but rather a feeling you develop that allows you to have the conviction that you can succeed at whatever you want.
 
Being a crossdresser can be very stressful if you don't have the confidence to deal with it, whether it's the simple fact of wanting to buy a nice dress in a store or going out to crossdress in public for the first time.
 
It would be an exaggeration to assume that just learning how to build confidence is enough to make all your problems go away, but it will help you to have the right attitude to face them.

5 tips for building confidence as a crossdresser

Here are 5 tips that will show you the path you need to take to develop self-confidence as a crossdresser.

Lovely crossdresser in a blue dress, suntan pantyhose and beige pumps

Be comfortable with yourself

Accepting yourself as you are is perhaps the first step in building self-confidence.
 
To accept yourself you must first know yourself, know who you are now and who you want to become, be aware of your flaws and appreciate your strengths.

In this way you will be able to value yourself, achieve emotional well-being and, ultimately, love yourself.

Stop being so hard on yourself

One of the things that every crossdresser has to deal with is the feeling of guilt.
 
Many crossdressers, if not all of us, have gone through this stage of guilt. It's when we throw away all our pretty girly clothes that we worked so hard to buy, or we delete all our photos or videos, or we leave crossdressing forums or groups, only to start all over again soon after.
 
I'm sure you all know that feeling very well. We create a vicious circle that destroys our confidence.

If actually being a crossdresser is what you want then you should stop criticizing yourself and feeling guilty about it.

Your feminine side is part of you and being able to enjoy it by wearing girly clothes should be a matter of course.
 
There are several ways to improve our treatment of ourselves. One of them is to talk to ourselves in a positive way.

What we say to ourselves as well as the words we use are important because it is the way we create our view of the world.

This is why it is important that we have a healthy and empowering conversation with ourselves.
 
Another way to show appreciation for yourself is to recognize your accomplishments and achievements, big or small.
 
If you've managed to improve your skills in makeup or walking in high heels, don't let it go unnoticed and celebrate your success. 

Overcome your limiting beliefs

Feeling doubt or anxiety about what we think of ourselves as crossdressers at the prospect of looking and feeling as feminine as a woman is a sure sign that our beliefs are limiting us from wanting to make our desires and fantasies come true.
 
We all have beliefs that represent something like absolute truth about ourselves and our world. They are very useful when they help us achieve our goals. But when these "truths" begin to prevent us from doing certain things or negatively affect our efforts and relationships, they become limiting beliefs.
 
If that's the case, it's time to ask yourself which of your beliefs are preventing you from achieving your goals. Examine those beliefs from the perspective of the new reality you want to create and replace them with new beliefs that will empower you and help you achieve what you long for.

At some point you must have said to yourself things like "I can't" or "I'm too shy". Or surely when you fantasize about walking around a mall dressed very sexy you tell yourself that "I would never dare to go out in public dressed as a lady".

If you keep telling yourself the same thing constantly, it will become for you an absolute truth. But when you change your speech, you give yourself the opportunity to change the ending of your story.

Surround yourself with good people

Try as much as possible to foster personal relationships with those who accept you as you are, support you and encourage you to be yourself, and spend less time with those negative people who don't understand or accept sexual diversity.
 
Always seek out people who will help you improve and avoid those who diminish you emotionally or physically.

Rest assured that negative and toxic people are in the minority. There will always be many more people than you think who will love and support you, and many more who simply don't care that you are a crossdresser.
 
These positive people will not necessarily be part of your family group or your close group of friends. You can also find them in advisory groups or even people you admire, mentors or life coaches.

Realize you are not alone

As obvious as it sounds, I think it is important and necessary to repeat it as many times as necessary: you're not alone.

You are not the only person who likes crossdressing and who has gone through times when you felt you didn't have what it takes to move forward.
 
Every crossdresser, no matter how self-confident she may seem now, has had her dark times at the beginning of her journey.
 
I assure you that there are many more crossdressers out there than you think and many of them are willing to help you find your way.
 
So don't suffer and be happy, enjoying crossdressing the way you decide.

Happy crossdresser sitting showing off her beautiful legs in pantyhose and heels

Your darkest secrets

Your darkest secrets

Yes, I know when I say "your darkest secrets" it sounds like a horror movie or a crime thriller.
 
This post is not about any of that, but it does relate to secrets, and specifically that secret life we as crossdressers had or continue to have.
 
It is amazing to be able to enjoy wearing pantyhose and high heels as a crossdresser
 
I feel I am right in thinking that each and every one of us has, not one, but many secrets. I think that's normal.
 
Perhaps the problem lies in the type of secret we wish to keep. Those secrets that for some reason we feel will affect us negatively at a family level, at work, in a personal way, if they were to become public, are the ones we most want to hide.

And keeping these kinds of secrets is very stressful and exhausting.
 
Deciding to be yourself as a crossdresser allows you to fully enjoy feminine garments such as mini skirts, pantyhose and heels
 
We as crossdressers know what it's like to have a secret that we don't want to be known, but at the same time we wish we could have someone to tell it to.
 
It is normal, and even healthy, to want to confess our secrets. Those secrets are part of our life, part of who we are and for some reason we always wish to be accepted as we are, but that will never happen if we keep hiding certain parts of ourselves from others.
 
Here it is important to point out that it is not essential to tell your secret to anyone if you do not consider it necessary.

There is a very big difference between what we could consider a secret and what is something private. If you feel good about yourself about keeping your taste for crossdressing private then it is not necessary to make it public. But if you want to take it a step further then it would be helpful to share your private life with someone else or even make it public.
 
Attitude is important for a sexy crossdresser when deciding to be herself, especially when she wants to look sexy wearing pantyhose and heels
 
Things can get complicated when you decide to live as a couple. Keeping the fact that you're a crossdresser hidden from your partner could hurt her in some way and damage your relationship, even more so if along with this you also hide your sexual preferences.
 
Ideally, in this case, you should tell her at the beginning of the relationship. I'm not saying that you should tell her on the first date, but keep in mind that you shouldn't wait too long to tell her either.
 
If you have been married for a while and you have not told your wife how much you like to dress sexy and feminine, talking to her about it can be much more complicated but it is always possible. Some time ago I wrote a post in which I left some tips that you might find useful on how to tell your wife that you are crossdresser.
 
An important point is to be honest with yourself, that is, tell your secret to yourself before telling others, and call things by their name. This is a way to take away the power that your secret has over you.

When you decide to tell your secret, you should tell all of it, not just part of it. Don't keep anything inside. That is, if you only like to dress in women's clothing, say so, but if you are also gay, say so too. It's no use telling only part of it, that's like continuing to lie to your partner.
 
I understand that being in this situation can be scary but if you handle it the right way, planning the best time to tell her, creating the right environment, with respect  and above all being honest, there is a real chance that things will work out.
 
Just a final word of caution on the subject. Even the best preparation and good intentions cannot guarantee you success at the end of the conversation. The truth is that not all women will respond positively to news like this. So be prepared for the possibility of rejection.

Good luck to you.

How to be more feminine when crossdressing

How to be more feminine when crossdressing

All crossdressers love to look more feminine. That's why we dress up in pantyhose and heels every chance we get.

It is important to always keep in mind that to look feminine you must first feel feminine.

If you are interested in knowing how to be even more feminine than you already are, here are some suggestions. Read on.

Pretty crossdresser wearing a floral dress, black pantyhose and black high heels

It is said that a smile is a reflection of the soul. A smile can work wonders when it comes to looking feminine. Smiling is also a sign that you feel good about yourself and that always attracts good vibes to you. Just remember to always take care of your oral health.

Being attentive to details is another important point to take into consideration, not only at the level of your wardrobe or your actions, but also to the people around you. Knowing how to give value to details will increase your femininity considerably.

Beautiful crossdresser wearing a plaid miniskirt, black pantyhose and black boots

Another important issue to be taken into account is the way of behaving because you can't expect to look feminine if you behave like a trucker (excuse me my trucker friends but you know what I mean).

Good manners, and this goes for both those who want to look more masculine or feminine, help to make any social interaction more enjoyable so review and develop the most appropriate manners to look as feminine as you wish.

There are other details that may seem minor but are not.

An example of this is the way you sit. You will always look much more feminine if your legs are crossed or parallel and tilted. One important point to remember, try not to sit with your legs open. Although your male brain may think otherwise, that is neither feminine nor glamorous.

Just as useful as sitting properly is walking in style. We all love to walk in heels and it will certainly help you look more feminine... if you do it the right way. For that you should learn some tips for walking in heels.

Sexy crossdresser posing in a sheer black polka dot dress, black gloves, black pantyhose and black heels.

In the end remember that looking feminine will depend a lot on how you feel. It's all about trust and being honest with yourself. So be a happy crossdresser and enjoy the experience.

In any case, if you have decided that you want to be more feminine, the important thing is that this change is for you.

If you want to get another perspective on femininity here is a video of the lovely Victoria Rose that I hope you find useful. Enjoy it.

April Ashley: british transgender model

April Ashley: british transgender  model

Reading the news I learned of April Ashley's passing on December 31, 2021. To tell the truth, I didn't know her story but after doing a little research I was in awe of all she accomplished during her lifetime.

British transgender model April Ashley
VIC SINGH/SHUTTERSTOCK/REX FEATURES

The above photo dates from 1964 and is a sample of how beautiful she was.

The first years of his life were not exactly happy, she suffered from health problems and even made a couple of attempts on her own life. However, everything changed after she underwent sexual reassignment surgery.

In fact, she is now recognized as one of the first people to undergo this type of surgery.

Her life was always controversial. She was an actress, fashion model, writter and activist for transgender equality. In fact, in 2012 Ashley was appointed a Member of the Order of the British Empire (MBE) for her services in this field.

Here is a video that corresponds to one of the films that are part of the exhibition April Ashley, Portrait of a lady, presented at the Museum of Liverpool.  The voice is April's.

How to lose weight and gain a more feminine figure as a crossdresser

How to lose weight and gain a more feminine figure as a crossdresser

Like all flirtatious crossdressers, we are always very aware of our weight. We try to keep it under control in order to look sexier and more feminine.

Although many offer extreme methods and diets to achieve this quickly, you may not get the promised results.

On the other hand, before deciding to follow any diet it is highly recommended to visit a specialist in medicine and nutrition to examine you and recommend the most appropriate one for you.

Here we will only give you some recommendations that will help you reach your goal of losing weight to achieve what every hot crossdresser wants: to look beautiful and passable figure. Keep on reading.

Beautiful crossdresser very feminine wearing a white miniskirt, tan pantyhose and high heels

Healthy weight loss

I guess all of us would like to lose weight overnight, as quickly as possible, but that's not a healthy goal.

Losing weight slowly but steadily is not a goal in itself, but rather a path to follow that will become a habit that will help us to maintain our desired weight and decrease the risk of suffering the "rebound effect".

The benefits of losing weight are many from improving our blood pressure, glucose and cholesterol levels, to increasing our energy levels and improving our self-esteem, and of course looking very sexy and feminine in mini skirts and short dresses. 

Before starting any weight loss regimen you must be very aware of the reason that drives you to it. Motivation plays a very important role in achieving the results you want.

It would help to define very specifically what you want to achieve by losing weight. Whether it's a health reason, or you want to look better, you must find the connection between that reason for losing weight and your values and beliefs.

After you really know why you want to lose weight, you must commit to that goal. Remember that you are not only going to lose weight, but you are going to change your lifestyle.

It's not just about eating less, losing weight involves other aspects such as physical exercise to reduce sedentary lifestyle and burn those extra calories, and the emotional aspect, which in the end will make you feel better and happier with yourself.

Seek professional help, ask your friends and family for support. All kinds of help count towards your goal of becoming a more beautiful and healthier crossdresser.

Last but not least, continuously track your progress. This will help you know what changes you can make to your weight loss routine to optimize it to your personal needs.

And always remember to reward yourself for every achievement you make on the way to reaching your weight loss goal.

Crossdressers party night out

Crossdressers party night out

A girls night out is an event for which we prepare ourselves to look stunning and have a lot of fun.

A night out with other crossdressers allows you to better explore your feminine side in addition to having first-hand feedback on your appearance that will allow you to take your crossdressing skills to the next level, plus it's extremely fun to go out in a group.

Cheer up and let us know how your girls night out went.

Two gorgeous party crossdressers in pantyhose and heels

Beautiful club crossdressers having fun on a night out

Beautiful crossdressers in pantyhose

Crossdressers party night out

Party crossdressers having fun in pantyhose

Women who love crossdressers

Women who love crossdressers

For a crossdresser, their relationship can be complex to say the least. That's why when the wife of a crossdresser accepts his condition is something great, and if he also supports her and fully shares this facet of his life integrating it into the life of the couple is like being in heaven.

Having the full support of your wife is something fundamental if you want to lead a happy life as a couple as a crossdresser.

That you both can help each other look beautiful and feminine is priceless.

Happy crossdressing couple in pantyhose and high heels

Certainly, crossdressing is far from being to the liking of most wives, but a significant percentage of those who do accept their husbands crossdress find it an exciting part of their partner that generates a powerful attraction for them.

I think it is always rewarding to have someone who loves you as you are, with your virtues and defects, and that helping you dress very feminine is to their liking.

Beautiful crossdressing couple in pantyhose and heels

I think I'm not wrong in saying that most people would think a crossdresser is very lucky to find a wife or girlfriend who accepts his condition and supports him through this, which is true.

But we often forget about those women who do like to be with a man without fear of expressing their femininity, and that they can also feel very fortunate to be able to share their life with a crossdresser.

Gorgeous crossdressing couple in pantyhose and heels

Sometimes it is not even necessary to share an intimate relationship, in many occasions a crossdresser just needs a friend to share this side of her life with. Maybe the hardest part is finding the courage to tell her, but after that awkward moment you may be surprised at how rewarding it is to have a friend.

Having a friend with whom you feel comfortable and confident is the most valued thing that many crossdressers can have.

Crossdressing couple having fun together

Many women are thrilled with the idea of helping a man look feminine, as long as you request it in a correct and respectful way. They love the feeling of appreciation. It's a game of friendship and confidences that women love.

Some women are very serious about making a crossdresser look beautiful and feminine, helping her to think like a woman (even if some crossdressers are only interested in dressing in a feminine way). That's something they often find irresistibly attractive and sexy.

Lovely crossdressing couple enjoying the moment

Nylons and heels

Nylons and heels

Every girl always dreams of wearing high heels. No matter the type: from classic pumps to exotic mules.
 
What matters is that they have a high heel. And when you combine them with pantyhose or stockings, you get a look that will never go unnoticed, because who can stop admiring a crosdresser in nylons and heels?

For all the fashion-loving crossdressers out there, here is a compilation of the sexiest combinations of nylons and heels that you can show off this season and in the seasons to come.

Elegant black sandals and sheer black tights with pink reinforcements on the toes and heel.

Red pumps with seamed tan pantyhose

White pumps with seamed nude tights

Red peep toe pumpswith seamed tights

Black pumps with ripped sheer black tights

Bronze pumps with shiny tights

Stunning legs in shiny tights and black pumps

Lovely black pumps with ankle straps and shiny black tights

Black sandals with transparent ankle straps and black stockings

Seamed tan tights with ankle bracelet and black pumps

Sexy legs of crossdresser in stockings and high heels

feet of beautiful crossdresser in nylons and high heels

Crossdresser, pantyhose and heels





Crossdressers in high heels and stockings or pantyhose always look great. It's a surefire way to turn heads.

Just the thought of the soft touch of nylon on your legs is as much or even more exciting than the feeling of your legs attracting all eyes.
 
Pantyhose and heels or stockings with appropriate shoes can add elegance to an outfit, whether you want to show off your nice legs with a short dress or your curves with a maxi dress with a side slit.

Imagine how shiny sheer pantyhose with the right dress will add a festive touch, or if you want to create a bold contrast with opaque black tights and colored shoes. 
 

Crossdressing at home

Crossdressing at home

Although going out fully crossdressed on the street will always be an exciting experience, the idea of enjoying crossdressing at home also has its charms.

Beautiful crossdresser at home in pantyhose and heels

Maybe shy and sweet crossdressers like you who stay at home are defined as closet crossdressers. But come on, you don't really live in the closet (besides, I've tried it and it's very uncomfortable).

At home you have the advantage of the intimacy that allows you to be the girl you want, without filters, dress up in the craziest and sexiest clothes of your wardrobe and give free rein to your fantasies.

And all this just to please yourself.

As you can see, when you're a crossdresser, it doesn't all have to be going out, going out and going out. Staying at home can be fun too. A lot of it.


How to crossdress

How to crossdress

The issue of how to crossdress is quite complicated to deal with as some girls will find it natural while others will find it a real mess.

I think I'm right in saying that we all want to look beautiful when we are dressed up, whether we are doing it alone in the privacy of our homes or getting ready to go out and have fun.

Whatever the purpose of dressing, we must be in the right frame of mind and feel happy when crossdress. Be ourselves and enjoy the moment.

Gorgeous crossdresser wearing a dress, pantyhose and high heels

Bringing out the woman in you

Perhaps one of the first steps is how to apply makeupIn the world of makeup there are so many products and it can be a little tricky to figure out when to use what. But it is important to have a minimum of knowledge about it to achieve the desired result as well as a lot of desire to learn and practice.

As for clothing, it all depends on the look you want to achieve. If you are going to dress in intimacy you can dress with the most daring and sexy look that your crazy fantasies tell you. But if you are going out, then you should be a little more careful with what you wear, always keeping in mind the place where you are going to go or the effect you want to achieve on others.

The most feminine garments you can count on are dresses and mini skirts. They are ideal for almost every occasion (unless your goal is to go camping in the mountains or in a jungle).

If the skin on your legs is smooth and free of leg hair marks (after shaving your legs of course), you can show off your beautiful legs without any problems. But if you prefer to cover any imperfections or simply have a weakness for hosiery, you can also choose a pantyhose or stockings that will help you feel more feminine and comfortable.

A separate point on the cross theme is that of shoes. If you haven't tried any yet I encourage you to follow this guide on how to find your first pair of heels.

It is also important to know how to walk in them. For one thing we must think about safety first and avoid injuring ourselves while wearing our cute high heels. On the other hand we want to walk in them like a runway model. Whether for one reason or the other it is important to know some basic tips on how to walk in heels.

Remember to always be aware of the small details. Well-pampered nails, not only on your hands but also on your feet (even if you don't wear open-toed shoes) are a point to always keep in mind, as well as the choice of the accessories you will wear with your outfit: necklaces, earrings, handbags, belts.

Learn to speak more softly and melodiously, varying the tone and volume, and something very important that some people overlook, also remember to adopt the vocabulary associated with women.

Every detail helps you look more feminine and sexy. In the end it is the details that always make the difference.

Finally, if you want to enjoy the moment to the fullest you must assume the right attitude. Develop the feminine personality you wish to exhibit, express your emotions more freely. In short, feel like a real woman.

Crossdressing fantasies

Crossdressing fantasies

A crossdresser's life is already a fantasy. Her world is full of imagination that moves her emotions, her desires. That is her world, plenty of crossdresser fantasies.

She is living her crossdressing fantasies in pantyhose and high heels

Beautiful crossdresser living out her fantasy of dressing in a miniskirt, pantyhose and heels

In this world, everything is possible, anything can happen. A world full of crazy illusions that can turn out to be very real, of desires that can come true in the blink of an eye. Full of imaginary but vivid experiences that stir her emotions.

The fantasy of dressing like a woman with lingerie, pantyhose and high heels. The fantasy of putting on makeup like a woman and wearing that delicious lipstick. The fantasy of behaving like a woman walking provocatively to the beat of her heels. The fantasy of being and feeling like a woman.

Going out in public for the first time

Going out in public for the first time

I look in the mirror one more time, I try to check my makeup but I'm almost shaking with excitement. I can't concentrate. I try for the umpteenth time to fix my bra and again I am dissatisfied. It is an impossible task.

I sit for a while to try to calm down but the rubbing of the pantyhose on my legs only increases my arousal. I better take a breath or else I'll pass out.

Now I stand up, grab my bag and walk to the door, as I hear the mesmerizing click-clack of my heels on the floor. It makes me feel extremely feminine.

I put my hand on the doorknob. Seconds pass. I'm not ready yet but I still open the door and go out to the street. The adrenaline is pumping. My first public outing dressed very pretty and feminine.

Beautiful crossdresser in pantyhose and heels ready for her first outing

Tips for crossdressing in public

One of the most recurrent fantasies that every crossdresser would like to make reality sometime in her life is to go out crossdressed in public.
 
And if that's so, then what's stopping crossdressers from enjoying a nice public outing?

In a word, the answer is: fear.
 
The fear of what might happen if we are caught dressing as feminine as a woman may be so great that it prevents us from daring to go out
as crossdressers in public.

But if, despite the initial fear, you've already made the decision to try going out crossdressed in public, read on because you'll find some tips for crossdressing in public that you're sure to find useful and will help you enjoy this adventure to the fullest.

Building confidence

I think everyone will agree that confidence is definitely the first thing to achieve, and not only in crossdressing. Confidence is a fundamental quality in any area of life.

To be confident you have to let go of certain beliefs that limit you and start realizing that dressing as feminine as you want in public is not a bad thing, if anything it's just different.

Plan your outing

One way to feel more confident for your first outing as a crossdresser is to plan for it.

Remember not to overdo it, keep your plan as simple as possible and not to worry too much about all the details. In the end it's all about enjoying the experience.

Certainly there are things you may not be able to control, but there are also things you can control, and we'll talk about those things below.

Choose the right time and place to come out

One of the details that you can and should plan carefully is the time and place where you will be going out in public for the first time as crossdresser.

I know it sounds obvious to say that going out crossdressed during the day is not the same as going out at night. And although the night may seem like the ideal time for our first outing, it never hurts to consider going out during the day.

Regarding the place, you should take into account what activities you want to do, if it will only be a walk in a public place, or if you want to visit a restaurant or a bar instead.

When you go out for the first time, do it in places where there are fewer people but that are safe and for short periods of time. This way you will feel more at ease.

If you are traveling in another country, you should research in advance how permissive the local laws and customs are towards the LGBT community.

If possible, go out with a friend, crossdresser or not, so you can feel safer and enjoy the experience much more. They can also help you plan your outing by giving you ideas and advice.

Dress appropriately to every occasion

Surely you look amazing in that short tight dress and stilettos but that doesn't mean you will dress like that to go anywhere.

That is why you should learn how to crossdress in public and choose your attire according to the time and place you are going to visit.

For that you can visit that place before and look at the way the women who go there are dressed. This way you will have a better chance of going unnoticed.

Choose clothes that are your size and fit your body type, so you can create a nice, simple look that allows you to feel comfortable and confident.

Always try different outfits and styles until you find the one that makes you feel most confident and feminine.

Being a lady in every way

Crossdressing is not only about looking like a woman, it is also about behaving like one.

Practicing your feminine manners will also increase your self-confidence and help you look more like the other women around you.

Watch how the other girls carry themselves and try to emulate their behaviors, postures and movements, of course, without overdoing it.

If you have a friend to help you improve your feminine manners, even better. If not, don't worry, you can also practice alone at home in front of a mirror.

If you decided to wear high heels during your first public outing, it is very important that you first learn how to walk in heels.

This is very important because, in addition to helping you look more feminine, you should do it for safety, as there is a possibility of injury if you don't know how to walk in high heels, and I doubt very much you want to end up in a hospital dressed as a woman.
 
If you still don't feel comfortable walking in high heels, you can also choose shoes with lower heels or even nice flats that you feel confident in.

There is also the issue of how to apply makeup. Yes, you should wear makeup, but use it sparingly. It will help you feel much more feminine.

The same goes for perfumes. Remember to use one that makes you feel fresh, relaxed and, why not, sexy.

Decide if you really want to do it

Perhaps before we think about the details of our first public outing as crossdressers we should first consider whether we really want to do it or whether there is some good reason why we should avoid doing it.

If you are one of those people who love to enjoy crossdressing in the privacy of your own home that's fine, there is no problem with that. Going out in public dressed very cute and feminine is not an obligation.

I can't think of many good reasons not to do it, but one that I do think is important has to do with the fact that you are married. If you haven't yet told your wife that you crossdress or she doesn't approve it then you shouldn't do it. That would only create or increase problems in your relationship.

Crossdressers in public having some fun