Your darkest secrets

Yes, I know when I say "your darkest secrets" it sounds like a horror movie or a crime thriller.

 

This post is not about any of that, but it does relate to secrets, and specifically that secret life we as crossdressers had or continue to have.

 

 

I feel I am right in thinking that each and every one of us has, not one, but many secrets. I think that's normal.

 

Perhaps the problem lies in the type of secret we wish to keep. Those secrets that for some reason we feel will affect us negatively at a family level, at work, in a personal way, if they were to become public, are the ones we most want to hide.

And keeping these kinds of secrets is very stressful and exhausting.

 

 

We as crossdressers know what it's like to have a secret that we don't want to be known, but at the same time we wish we could have someone to tell it to.

 

It is normal, and even healthy, to want to confess our secrets. Those secrets are part of our life, part of who we are and for some reason we always wish to be accepted as we are, but that will never happen if we keep hiding certain parts of ourselves from others.

 

Here it is important to point out that it is not essential to tell your secret to anyone if you do not consider it necessary.

There is a very big difference between what we could consider a secret and what is something private. If you feel good about yourself about keeping your taste for crossdressing private then it is not necessary to make it public. But if you want to take it a step further then it would be helpful to share your private life with someone else or even make it public.

 

 

Things can get complicated when you decide to live as a couple. Keeping the fact that you're a crossdresser hidden from your partner could hurt her in some way and damage your relationship, even more so if along with this you also hide your sexual preferences.

 

Ideally, in this case, you should tell her at the beginning of the relationship. I'm not saying that you should tell her on the first date, but keep in mind that you shouldn't wait too long to tell her either.

 

If you have been married for a while and you have not told your wife how much you like to dress sexy and feminine, talking to her about it can be much more complicated but it is always possible. Some time ago I wrote a post in which I left some tips that you might find useful on how to tell your wife that you are crossdresser.

 

An important point is to be honest with yourself, that is, tell your secret to yourself before telling others, and call things by their name. This is a way to take away the power that your secret has over you.

When you decide to tell your secret, you should tell all of it, not just part of it. Don't keep anything inside. That is, if you only like to dress in women's clothing, say so, but if you are also gay, say so too. It's no use telling only part of it, that's like continuing to lie to your partner.

 

I understand that being in this situation can be scary but if you handle it the right way, planning the best time to tell her, creating the right environment, with respect  and above all being honest, there is a real chance that things will work out.

 

Just a final word of caution on the subject. Even the best preparation and good intentions cannot guarantee you success at the end of the conversation. The truth is that not all women will respond positively to news like this. So be prepared for the possibility of rejection.

Good luck to you.

How to be more feminine when crossdressing

All crossdressers love to look more feminine. That's why we dress up in pantyhose and heels every chance we get.

It is important to always keep in mind that to look feminine you must first feel feminine.

If you are interested in knowing how to be even more feminine than you already are, here are some suggestions. Read on.

It is said that a smile is a reflection of the soul. A smile can work wonders when it comes to looking feminine. Smiling is also a sign that you feel good about yourself and that always attracts good vibes to you. Just remember to always take care of your oral health.

Being attentive to details is another important point to take into consideration, not only at the level of your wardrobe or your actions, but also to the people around you. Knowing how to give value to details will increase your femininity considerably.

Another important issue to be taken into account is the way of behaving because you can't expect to look feminine if you behave like a trucker (excuse me my trucker friends but you know what I mean).

Good manners, and this goes for both those who want to look more masculine or feminine, help to make any social interaction more enjoyable so review and develop the most appropriate manners to look as feminine as you wish.

There are other details that may seem minor but are not.

An example of this is the way you sit. You will always look much more feminine if your legs are crossed or parallel and tilted. One important point to remember, try not to sit with your legs open. Although your male brain may think otherwise, that is neither feminine nor glamorous.

Just as useful as sitting properly is walking in style. We all love to walk in heels and it will certainly help you look more feminine... if you do it the right way. For that you should learn some tips for walking in heels.

In the end remember that looking feminine will depend a lot on how you feel. It's all about trust and being honest with yourself. So be a happy crossdresser and enjoy the experience.

In any case, if you have decided that you want to be more feminine, the important thing is that this change is for you.

If you want to get another perspective on femininity here is a video of the lovely Victoria Rose that I hope you find useful. Enjoy it.

April Ashley: british transgender  model

Reading the news I learned of April Ashley's passing on December 31, 2021. To tell the truth, I didn't know her story but after doing a little research I was in awe of all she accomplished during her lifetime.

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The above photo dates from 1964 and is a sample of how beautiful she was.

The first years of his life were not exactly happy, she suffered from health problems and even made a couple of attempts on her own life. However, everything changed after she underwent sexual reassignment surgery.

In fact, she is now recognized as one of the first people to undergo this type of surgery.

Her life was always controversial. She was an actress, fashion model, writter and activist for transgender equality. In fact, in 2012 Ashley was appointed a Member of the Order of the British Empire (MBE) for her services in this field.

Here is a video that corresponds to one of the films that are part of the exhibition April Ashley, Portrait of a lady, presented at the Museum of Liverpool.  The voice is April's.

How to lose weight and gain a more feminine figure as a crossdresser

Like all flirtatious crossdressers, we are always very aware of our weight. We try to keep it under control in order to look sexier and more feminine.

Although many offer extreme methods and diets to achieve this quickly, you may not get the promised results.

On the other hand, before deciding to follow any diet it is highly recommended to visit a specialist in medicine and nutrition to examine you and recommend the most appropriate one for you.

Here we will only give you some recommendations that will help you reach your goal of losing weight to achieve what every hot crossdresser wants: to look beautiful and passable figure. Keep on reading.

Healthy weight loss

I guess all of us would like to lose weight overnight, as quickly as possible, but that's not a healthy goal.

Losing weight slowly but steadily is not a goal in itself, but rather a path to follow that will become a habit that will help us to maintain our desired weight and decrease the risk of suffering the "rebound effect".

The benefits of losing weight are many from improving our blood pressure, glucose and cholesterol levels, to increasing our energy levels and improving our self-esteem, and of course looking very sexy and feminine in mini skirts and short dresses. 

Before starting any weight loss regimen you must be very aware of the reason that drives you to it. Motivation plays a very important role in achieving the results you want.

It would help to define very specifically what you want to achieve by losing weight. Whether it's a health reason, or you want to look better, you must find the connection between that reason for losing weight and your values and beliefs.

After you really know why you want to lose weight, you must commit to that goal. Remember that you are not only going to lose weight, but you are going to change your lifestyle.

It's not just about eating less, losing weight involves other aspects such as physical exercise to reduce sedentary lifestyle and burn those extra calories, and the emotional aspect, which in the end will make you feel better and happier with yourself.

Seek professional help, ask your friends and family for support. All kinds of help count towards your goal of becoming a more beautiful and healthier crossdresser.

Last but not least, continuously track your progress. This will help you know what changes you can make to your weight loss routine to optimize it to your personal needs.

And always remember to reward yourself for every achievement you make on the way to reaching your weight loss goal.

Crossdressers party night out

A girls night out is an event for which we prepare ourselves to look stunning and have a lot of fun.

A night out with other crossdressers allows you to better explore your feminine side in addition to having first-hand feedback on your appearance that will allow you to take your crossdressing skills to the next level, plus it's extremely fun to go out in a group.

Cheer up and let us know how your girls night out went.