How to find your first pair of heels

Perhaps the first thing a crossdresser dreams of is a pair of high heels. And that is completely understandable since high heels are one of the greatest icons of femininity that exist. Here we will talk about how to find your first pair of high heels.

It used to be a ritual to be able to buy your first pair of high heels since you had to go to the store and (maybe) spend the shame of exposing yourself to everyone seeing you lurking in the women's shoe area and trying to try them on on the sly. And then make up a story about you buying the shoes for your wife or a friend. It's quite an adventure.

Now the internet has made the process of buying your favorite high heels much easier by taking the psychological pressure out of the act.

Of course, this brings with it the fact that you can't try on your shoes before you buy them so you don't know beforehand if they will fit or not.

And here is the first tip: if you are going to buy on the Internet, do it only on sites that have a clear and defined return policy so that, when it comes to any inconvenience with the size, you can make the exchange or return without problems.

The shoe size

The main problem when buying high heels is that the vast majority of heels on the market are made to measure the feet of women, not men.

That has started to change but not as fast as you might expect it to. So if you want to try on a Louboutin or Jimmy Choo in your size I think you're going to have to wait a little longer for that to happen (...unless your feet are small and Cinderella's glass slippers fits you perfectly).

Finding an exact match is quite complicated since it is not only the size but also the width of the foot. As far as size goes, a good approximation might be to ask for 1.5 larger number than you fit. If you know that your foot is wide then you should decide on a wide shoe (W). If it is not so wide with a medium model (M) it is possible that you will do well.

Here is an example. If your men's size is 10 then you can try on a size 11.5 shoe, as far as width is concerned you can choose between M or W. So the size to buy would be 11.5M which would normally work well or 11.5W if you have a really wide foot.

The above is not written in stone and may fail but serves quite well as a first approximation. Remember that sizes can also vary from one manufacturer to another.

Here you can find a reference table that includes a comparison of men's and women's shoe sizes.

The very first pair of high heels

When it comes to high heels, your brain will automatically begin to imagine how feminine and sexy you will look crossdressed in heels. I also love wearing high heels, the sexy sound they make when I walk and how they make my legs look more shapely.

Yes, I know. High heels, the higher, the more desirable they are. But when it comes to your first heels, you better watch out.

If you are going to buy your first heels then it means that you have never walked in them. To prevent your first experience with those longed-for heels from ending up in the hospital it is better that we lower our expectations a little and do the same thing we did when we learned to ride a bike: use the training wheels.

Avoid at all costs the temptation to go for a pair of skyscraper stiletto heels at the beginning!!! It is better to choose a pair of wide and not so high heels.

Below you will find a video where Vera Wylde better explains the reason for this advice.

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